Thursday, December 30, 2010

Focus and Intent

Imagine your life was exactly the way you envisioned it.  Wait.  You don't envision your life the way you want it to be?  You just take what is given and maybe complain about what you've got?

Well no wonder we need Grandmother PaRisHa, Bob Proctor and John Assaraf.

In case you don't know it, Bob Proctor and John Assaraf are motivational coaches and Grandmother PaRisHa is, well, many things: teacher, mentor, coach, spiritual guidance instructor, Medicine woman, Elder.

The point is that your life may not be what you want it to be because you don't plan it.  All three people mentioned above talk about 'visioning' a life that appeals to you and then planning it and making it happen.  That takes Focus.  That takes Intent.  Both focus and intent mean you know what you want and have a direction in which to move.  As Bob Proctor says, "the Universe gives you exactly what you plan for.  But without a plan you just have to take what the Universe throws your way.  Maybe it's what you want and maybe it isn't."  This happens because there is no focus of energy.  This happens because there is no statement of intent. 

Years ago I made a plan to give up smoking.  I never smoked much, maybe 3 cigarettes a day but I was still addicted to those 3 cigarettes.  I loved to smoke them and looked forward to the time of day when I could just relax with a cigarette or 3.  I knew that I wanted to stop smoking altogether and so I planned for the day that would happen.

I wrote down the date about 3 months away that I would be able to pick up a cigarette, look at it and just not want it anymore.  That was my intent.  I focused my intent daily just one time in the morning when I woke up and just knew that by the specified date I would be able to say I had quit smoking.

Three months later I wasn't ready to quit but that didn't stop me from re-focusing my intent on another date which I again wrote down.  By the second date I was rewarded.  I picked up a cigarette and absolutely did not want it.  I put it down and have never looked at a cigarette again nor have I had any desire or craving to smoke. 

That took focus and intent.  I had a plan and I followed it.  I have been smoke free and my life without cigarettes is great.

Whenever I feel I want something, want to do something, need something in my life or whatever; I plan a course of action.  I intend it and focus on it.  I know that I can have anything, do anything, be anything as long as my consciousness allows for it.  I keep growing and expanding in thought and awareness.  This is important because it is a lack of awareness that keeps us from thinking big thoughts and dreaming big dreams.  Some people are born with an expanded awareness.  Others have to grow into it.

Planning life is an adventure in trust and optimism.  Learning how to focus and intend a goal draws circumstances to us like the laser light on a pen focuses it's light in one spot.  There are so many options to choose from, but unless you focus and intend what it is that you want you may never have anything because there is no plan to pick out of the ethers.  Without a plan, it's all just a jumble that you have to sort through and take what comes your way.

Expanded thought, awareness, plan, focus, intent, action.  All of these equal Results.

Write out your goal(s), make them big!  Then intend how you want them to manifest, focus, plan and take the action to bring them about.

Watch what happens when you begin to learn to use your creativity.  There is nothing you can't do or have!

Happy New Year!

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

When You're Happy and You Know It

I've lived with some real characters and have been in work situations where many people were very unhappy.  One of my friends whom I've known for many years always seems to be on anti-depressants.  I don't believe I ever understood why.  She lives in a modest home, has nice things and appears warm and friendly.  She has many friends and acquaintances. 

Recently I visited and we talked more intimately than we had ever spoken to each other before in our long history together.  For instance, she never knew all the healing techniques I involve myself in.  And she told me how miserable she is at work.  How the 'younger' people have come in and how their attitudes are so 'different'. 

I said, "so what do you care, you have 3 months left to work, and then you will retire.  I would go in skipping and singing if it were me."

She couldn't see it that way.  She insists that being in a miserable state of mind for the next 3 months is all that exists.  "How can you deny being miserable for the next 3 months?  How can you think that is going to change the fact that I'm miserable now?  I don't know what to do about these women who hate me!  I can't live like this, not being a part of any conversations, not being included in anything.  It's awful!  I don't want to do this for another week let alone 3 months!"

I had to look at her and see where she is.  It made it easier to listen.  She was talking to me, a woman who has lived with a man who did not speak for 3 years, who left the room when I walked into it, who did not and still does not include me in his life in any way, shape or form.  A man who has left the building, mentally and emotionally and spiritually.  No matter what I said or did, he would not leave.  I work here so I can't leave.  Stalemate.  I hired an attorney.  No longer need this kind of mirror reflecting old beliefs and patterns.

It brought 'home' the realization that we are not all alike, that we each have different strengths and weaknesses, that no matter how 'old' a person is doesn't mean we mature equally.  Maybe it has nothing to do with maturity.  Maybe it's just that we each deal with 'loneliness' differently.

I have a purpose in life.  Since I was a child, my purpose has always been finding ways to help people.  I live life helping other people be healthy, naturally.  It keeps me sane and it keeps me on track and it keeps me happy.  I find happiness within myself.  Whenever I look outside for balance and peace I find it doesn't really exist outside of me.  I am at peace and I see each new day as a blessing and an adventure that will open to possibilities.  Everything is possible.  Everything is new and exciting.  I feel love no matter who or what is in my world because all that exists in me is love and it is through love that I view the world around me.  At times I get off track, but then it comes back around and I know I can only make my world better, within me.  If a person doesn't wish to engage in my world and wants to live in a darker place, I can still go within my own world and be happy and at peace. 

Many times I find myself listening to the negative comments made in my home but that doesn't mean I have to engage.  There are times when I mirror back a calmness and a peacefulness that says I am not engaging and the negativity stops.  For a while.  Sure, sometimes I have to fight, but when I do fight, it's for the right to be and to think my way, not anyone else's way.  My thoughts, actions and feelings are mine and they've brought me through 60 years without anti-depressant drugs.  I feel that is because I speak and act with integrity.  When I know I've caused an imbalance I do something to balance it.  Grandmother PaRisHa always said, "the only thing we truly have is our integrity". 

I used to awaken every day, get out of bed and the first thing I would think is "Thank you, Creator, for this beautiful man in my life".  He was a dream come true.  I was always told that being thankful brings more things to be thankful for...maybe it wasn't the man I was supposed to be thankful for.   

I've always had precognitive dreams sometimes years in advance of an emotional upheaval.  
I dreamed the house was falling down around him and he ignored it.  He didn't realize what was happening and when it hit him he literally drowned in emotion as it carried him away.  He never looked back.  I don't like these dreams, they always come true and there's never anything I can do to fix the situation, try as I may.

I put blue light around him all the time and just pray that he survives this break-up, somehow.  I feel that perhaps he never had a knowing of how love really feels.  I get this idea from something he said a while ago, that, "the dogs HATE when you do that!"  I replied that the puppies are incapable of HATING anything. 

When you've lived without knowing how love feels, how can you know to let it in..?  How do you recognize love for what it is if you've never truly known how it feels?  You think it's something else, something only your perceptions will allow because you have nothing to compare it with and nothing you think, do or say can touch what love is.  So, many people live without knowing how to love or how it feels.  When you live with one of them, it is nothing but sad.

Inside Voices

As I write this my two dogs Romeo and Valentino are charging through the house 'playing' like they're going to tear each other's throats out and barking wildly while Ed is trying to get their attention by telling them they must use their 'inside voices'.  "Inside voices!  Inside voices!"

I'm wondering how the world would evolve and change if we all not only used our 'inside voices' but listened to them.  I can't tell you how many times I ignored my inner voice and then later thought about what it had told me and if I'd listened to it how my world would have been totally changed in a positive manner.  I can think of so many instances when a thought flew through my head so fast it absolutely couldn't have meant anything at all and then soon afterwards I thought of something else which wasn't the inside voice but my own thoughts.  Of course, I didn't follow the inside voice.  It couldn't have been right.  It was too hard or it was too easy or it just didn't make any sense at all to do it that way.  Must not have heard right.  What to do, what to do?  I know!  I'll just do this other thing instead.

Whatever. 

In later years I learned that my inside "inner" voice was actually a friend and not 'the enemy'.  At some point I learned to pay attention and then act upon what the voice was saying.  That's how I changed career paths.  I just knew that I no longer belonged in Customer Service/Secretarial.  How did I know?  Mainly because instead of being a secretary for someone else, I needed to hire a secretary for myself.  If anyone needed a secretary (and still does) it's me!  But long before I knew I was going to change my career path I 'felt' it was what I needed to do.  There was this little voice telling me so.  I sort of listened but went about business as usual.  It was when the voice was shouting at me that I began to actually DO something about it.  Instead of just thinking about it - I planned then took action.

Long before something happens I can feel it will happen and sometimes, if it is something that will affect me on an emotional level, I even see it happen in the dreamtime, sometimes years before the actual event.  There are times when it's not pleasant to go to sleep at night.  Dreaming is a whole other dimension where we live and move and have our being.  I remember Grandmother Pa'Ris'Ha saying that the dreamtime is more real than the 3rd dimensional reality we live in.  In the dreamtime we are in heightened awareness.  We have to acknowledge what's happening in the dream because we are totally absorbed in the dream.  When we are frightened in a dream we feel it intensely.  When we are happy in a dream we feel that also.  Sensations in the dreamtime aren't denied or blocked.  If the dream is powerful enough, it can stay with us forever.

I remember something Don Juan told Carlos Casteneda, they were talking about dreaming and Don Juan told Carlos that it takes energy to dream and to remember a dream.  That makes so much sense because the more energy I put into an emotional relationship, the less I dream and have no recollection of what dreams I may have.  Emotional relationships usurp energy.  We also lose energy when we worry, gossip, are angry or resentful or become weighed down with the emotional drama.

Recently I've not been involved in any emotional dramas with anyone and my dreams have returned to the point where I could make popcorn and buy tickets because they are better than any movie.

Our 'inside voices' always give us what we need, when we need it.  All we have to do is listen and no matter how incredible it sounds, act on it.  (Just to be clear - I'm not talking about going "postal" or killing anyone - I'm talking about your own creativity and acting on it!)

Well, the dogs have gotten settled and are now quiet until the next time they liven things up.  Funny how things come up that make you think about something else.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Dreaming While Dreaming

I've been having some very interesting dreams recently.  Last night I came upon a group of people I know who were dreaming.  We all sat together in a circle and went into the same dream.  Everyone saw the same thing in the dream and we were able to discuss what we saw and what it all meant.  Some people had explanations for the things that happened and were able to describe what they meant to the rest of us.  There was a person there that had passed on a while ago and she was very good at deciphering what the dreams meant and because we were already in spirit, we were able to talk with her and see her.  Paige looked wonderful! 

We were looking into a dream world that focused around some corporate interests.  The corporate owners were surprised that we could 'see' beyond the smoke screen they had set up for us.  We were surprised and delighted that we could do this kind of work.  I remember the number 3106 but don't know what it means.

I'm familiar with 'dreaming because of the work I've done with Grandmother Pa'Ris'Ha in years past.  Recently, I was asked to work with a woman who had neck pain.  It occurred to me that she had some kind of 'invisible armor' that she was tired of carrying.  Then she said, "I'm so tired of this neck pain!  I've had it for so long and it is very tiresome".  So I said I would do what I could to help.

Overnight I journeyed into the worlds and saw that she was indeed carrying a heavy armor on her shoulders that came up her neck to her chin.  There was a lock on the armor and I asked for the key to unlock it.  The key came from the left of me and I caught it and unlocked the armor which fell away by itself.  As it did I  noticed that the armor came away from between the vertebrae in her spine.  I felt that she would heal and that from this point on, she wouldn't be so guarded, as is her nature.

Since the 'unlocking of the armor' this woman has told me that she feels naked and vulnerable as she never has before.  Her neck feels better but she has to get used to the feeling of vulnerability.  She says that people come up to her now and talk to her as though she and they are old friends and although she's never had trouble speaking to people before, now there is an ease with which people approach her.  She commented that she has to get used to this new feeling of open-ness around people.  She had lived with being 'guarded' all her life.

I believe working in the dreamtime is a rewarding and interesting adventure that I have yet to learn so much about.

Subtle Energy

Intuition and Natural Medicine


Eckhart Tolle, in "Realizing the Power of Now", states: "Be at least as interested in what goes on inside you as what happens outside. If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place."

Subtle energy exists all around us. If you know what is happening inside yourself, if you can hear your subtle tones and feel the strength of your own processes in the form of color and vibration, texture and depth of energy, then you are in the stillness of mind that matters.

A recent experience with an illness helped me to ‘tune-in’ to my inner-self, emotionally and physically, and helped me to bring it to a rapid balance. Having dealt with illness in one form or another all of my life has taught me how to intuit what is happening in my body. My life-long study of natural ways to heal has helped me enormously when I have needed to bring myself out of both chronic and acute illnesses. Normally for me, a bout of bronchitis will last about six weeks. In the past, I would have worked to balance bronchitis with herbs and vitamins and in doing so would be comfortable and sleep soundly by taking the herbs that warm the system and clear the lungs. In the years when I was plagued with chronic bronchitis I had to learn how to survive without symptoms so that I could rest and not miss any work. Over time, I became very proficient at healing my lung problems with herbs.

Recently I made up my mind that I don't have that kind of time, nor do I care to devote that much energy to a chronic condition.

So when my nose plugged up so much that it sounded as though I had a clothes pin attached to it and the drainage coursed down my throat and into my chest causing bronchitis bordering on pneumonia, I decided to take clear and concise action. Anything lasting longer than two days, in my account, is a sign that there is a deficiency present or a lack of assimilation of nutrients caused by blockage or excess in the system.

From my training in Naturopathy I had learned that sinus drainage, especially with a headache in the top, front, and back of the head, comes from something known as a "leaky" pituitary. The pituitary gland is the Master gland in that it regulates all the other glandular secretions of the body. Muscle testing this gland showed it to be weak along with an energetic drain on the liver. Starting with the Pituitary--Three nutrients in particular will wake up the pituitary gland and start it working again. They are Vitamin E in a heavy dose such as 2000 I.U.’s, Vitamin B-Complex or L-Ornithine, an amino acid. Taking one of those nutrients immediately stopped the headache which had been almost blinding. The nutrient action had also caused a pleasant buzzing in my head and a warmth throughout my body as the pituitary was once again active. Along with that, the leakiness subsided meaning that my sinuses stopped draining like a leaky faucet to a small drip. Still, the relief was immediately felt and I addressed the liver. To get the liver moving is easy. One drop on the tongue of Lavender essential oil will get the liver moving again. Essential oils are extremely potent so no more than one drop at a time please. Then, I began to work on the cough which I was able to stop with some things from my spice cabinet. The herbs I used were ginger and cayenne pepper, which add heat to a cold environment, thus bringing my cough to an immediate balance. This enabled me to sleep soundly through the night. To eliminate the cough altogether was another matter.

The word “cold”, as in, “I have a ‘cold’, means that the body is in an acid pH. The pH of the body should be between 6.4 and 6.8 to be in optimal health. When the pH falls below 6.4 the body becomes too acidic or ‘cold’. The energy moves too fast when it is acid and many times diarrhea is present. On the other hand, a pH over 6.8 tells you that your body is getting too warm or has too much heat. The energy moves slowly and constipation may result.

The concept of healing all of this came to me in a flash. My intuitive knowing told me that my stomach was out of balance and that, in order to bring my body back to health it would be necessary to fast for three days, bringing my body to a natural place of stillness so the organs of digestion would have time to reset themselves, so to speak. This, in Cranio-Sacral terms, is called a "still point". So, for three days I stopped eating food and only drank lemon juice from fresh lemons in pure water, with pure grade B Maple syrup to sweeten the lemon. Pure grade B Maple syrup has vitamins and minerals in it so your body isn’t missing the nutrients that would normally provide those vitamins and minerals. I took only one capsule of Cayenne (red) pepper in the morning along with the drink each day. Cayenne pepper is the highest source of Vitamin C and it also breaks up stagnant energy and warms the body which is needed when the body is in a ‘cold’ condition.

I wasn’t hungry at all without food. The drink itself dispelled my appetite. It took me three days of drinking the lemon/maple syrup water to balance my stomach, after which the cough completely vanished, just melted away. No more ‘cold’, cough or headache. Total time it took me to get rid of it was 6 days. Everyone around me had the same thing and it lasted over 6 weeks for many.

On an emotional level, grief and sadness affect the lungs by weakening them. I had been through a particularly sad experience throughout the year and just couldn’t let it go. As a result of holding the emotion of sadness too long, my lungs were weakened and the imbalance manifested as bronchial-pneumonia. Realizing this helped me to understand how I was holding energy and enabled me to adjust my thinking which was affecting my physical reality. Along that line of thinking, tears withheld may have their vibrational equivalent to sinus drainage. Crying happens whether we want it to or not. Our physical bodies respond with intelligence to our emotions and thoughts, creating our reality.

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Knee, Ankle, Foot Pain

Knee pain is a subject many people regard as simply ‘arthritis’. But when you consider that all the muscles of the lower leg as well as the muscles from the hip attach at that knee you may want to add muscular spasm into the equation.

Also, the patella (knee cap) floats above the knee and, as I’ve often found, may easily become ‘off track’. The trick is to gently maneuver the patella back on track and release the muscles that are in spasm around the knee. The work actually helps people control their pain and I’ve had many people experience immediate relief.

Another issue with the knee is instability which makes a person feel as though the knee will buckle or give out on them. The actual cause of this instability may well be that two muscles around the knee may be in spasm. Once these muscles are checked and the spasm relieved with either Neuromuscular release (painful) or positional release techniques (which are virtually painless) depending on the technique the therapist uses, you may experience immediate stability around the knee. You can put the walking cane in storage once these muscles are released!

Also, Dr. Max Collins, a brilliant Chiropractic doctor that I had to opportunity to meet in S. Carolina, suggests that knee pain may have causes in the gall bladder and liver and that it is most often associated with too much yeast or fungus in the system.


Ankle pain often signals weak muscles or muscles in spasm. If you have ever had ankle sprains or breaks the muscles in the feet and ankle most likely have gone into spasm. Never having had massage on the affected appendage, spasm may continue without any signs of discomfort for many years and then, it may appear that pain is sudden and from out of nowhere.

Dr. Max suggests another cause for ankle/foot pain may be related to weakened kidneys and adrenals.  Strengthening them requires a combination of lemon and olive oil for the kidneys and the 4C's (calcium/chlorophyll/cayenne/cider vinegar) taken all together for strengthening the adrenals.  (look for my upcoming e-book on Muscle Testing and Intuitive Development)

In many cases of sprain, if you catch it soon enough, a therapist may be able to stop the pain by releasing the injured muscle(s).

ALK fell off a roof and came limping into my office. “I landed on my feet! I think I really messed myself up. I can’t put any weight on my right foot.” The muscles of the back, hip and legs into the ankles and feet were systematically released and when ALK stood up, there was no pain. She couldn’t believe it and kept pacing around the office. “How the heck did you do that!?? I thought for sure I was going to have to walk with a cane!”

Another reason for ankle pain, as I found out by experience, is jewelry such as toe rings and ankle bracelets. These beauty adornments stop the flow of energy at the ankle and have caused me considerable pain within a short wearing time, enough for me to stop wearing them. They may not be a problem for those who don’t work with energetic modalities but they stop up energy and weaken structure for those of us who do on a daily basis.

So if you’re having knee, ankle or foot discomfort you may want to give massage therapy a chance to help release the muscles that may be the cause of all the discomfort. At least give massage a try before you give up altogether.

For those with persistent neuropathy, you may want to try the new device that opens up the pathways in the feet and legs, relieving pain and discomfort while it kills yeast, parasites, and fungus in the body. This device requires no effort on your part. All you have to do is put your feet on it and let it do the work of detoxing the body for you.




Friday, December 10, 2010

Let It Snow! The Beauty of Winter

Time is moving faster now it seems and people close to me are in their 'retirement' years.  Although I've never thought of 'retirement' I have changed how I think about 'work' in general.  For 30 years I had to consider my day and how to make it profitable by working for corporations which meant long drives into the nearest big city because that was where the money was.  What did I know about money?  You worked long hours for it.  That was a way of thinking that I was born into. 

Recently, within the last few years I have come to understand that you can make money without having to work long hours for it.  And you don't have to work hard for money.  Working at home has taught me that you can do anything you want and get paid for it, all you have to do is focus on what it is you want to do. 

So over 12 years ago I began to think about 'retirement' or, should I say, "non-retirement" and began to think about what would be a good way to spend my time during my 'winter' years.  I thought long and hard about what I loved learning and doing and set myself into work that I can live with.  I don't have a 'boss' except me, and my time is my own.  After working for corporations for 30 years where you had to be somewhere at a certain time and work so many hours a day, then be 'allowed' to leave....I knew I needed to do something that allowed me freedom from impending time clocks and regimented breaks.  How much like jail we live and never consider that there is another way of living.

For many years I dreaded winter.  The long nights meant never seeing daylight because you got up to go to work in the dark and came home in the dark; the driving to and from work in traffic jams that added hours to driving time, the shoveling of driveways and scraping off cars; standing in the cold to put gas in the tank; putting on heavy coats and scarves and boots and gloves; slipping and sliding on icy roadways.  All of this was what made me dread winter.

All that changed when I came home to work.  I realized that I never had the time to appreciate the beauty and the quiet that accompanies a blanket of pristine, powdery white snow.  The beauty that is winter takes on new meaning when you can take the time to appreciate its icy wonders: it's the only time of year that lets you see who and what is walking around your yard.  Birds, deer, cats (some big cats!), coyote and ground hogs that are supposed to be hibernating all make their way through the yard. 

There's nothing like walking in falling snow.  It's so quiet.  You don't hear any sounds at all but the sound your feet make when you walk.  Snow hitting your face is like tiny ice crystals that melt on contact.  I love walking in falling snow more than at any other time of year.  I'm not sure what it is, but there is just something about a winter walk.  Maybe it is that it makes me feel like a kid again when I used to roam the woods in deep snow up to my knees.

In the stories I would hear from Pa'Ris'Ha when she spoke of the changes of seasons she would say that the old ones knew that winter was a time of contemplation, of going inward and connecting with the self.  Stories would be told around campfires as the whole village would gather in one meeting place.  I could imagine they would gather together for warmth and tell stories so they wouldn't have just the howling winds to listen to.  What else did they have other than story tellers?  There were no Wii's and X Boxes, no TV with Dancing With The Stars or sit-coms.  The storytellers were valued and treasured members of the village who told tales of real life or mythical magical events from ages long ago.  Stories capable of holding the attention and imaginations of everyone and keeping them on the edge of their seats or comedies that invoked deep belly laughs were akin to our TV sets and what they mean to us.  Imagine your life without your entertainment center.  Everyone needs a good story.

Another thing I love about winter is sitting by a cozy fire wrapped up in a blanket and sharing the day with family or loved ones.  There's nothing cozier than a fire in the grate and the smell of wood burning and the warmth it gives off.

Finally, after so many years, I am living the way life was meant to be lived.  I work when I want and as long as I want.  I love doing something meaningful and purposeful in life and all the variants that come with what I do.  I love getting out of bed in the morning and being able to take my day as it comes with all the people that I meet who grace my doorstep.  I take the time for dreaming and introspection as I sit at a window and look at scenes that are often so cold that you can see a bluish cast over the landscape.  You know it's cold when you see the color of ice in the air!  At this stage of life, my 'winter' years, I finally have made the time to take the time to appreciate the seasons, in particular, Winter.  I never should have waited so long to make the discovery of your quiet and serenity, your beauty and joy.  My 'lost' season.  How I appreciate you!